When to Say Enough!
In our busy lives, we often put everyone and everything before ourselves. We have forgotten how to say “Enough!” It’s almost as if we have completely forgotten how to say the word “no.” Why is this? Why do we allow ourselves to get so overworked and overscheduled?
One reason we are overloaded is that we are on call 24/7. Between cell phones, texting and laptops, we are on brain overload. Isn’t it remarkable that thanks to Facebook, we know what a friend is having for lunch? Do we really care? Keeping up with the constant work emails that so many of us deal with means we no longer truly leave our jobs behind at the end of a long day. We exist in a world that encourages us to work ‘marathon style’. At times, it can seem to be too much.
We Need To Compete
For many of us, working long hours combined with raising a family, volunteering for various organizations and trying to manage everything in between is often done to show others that we can “do it all.” We can’t say “no” to anything that comes our way because we feel it’s important to show others that we are capable of juggling everything.
There are other reasons why we are on overload. Concerns about an uncertain economy can cause us to fear job loss if we aren’t giving ‘everything’ to our careers. In addition, many of the ‘baby boomer’ generation are caring for aging parents as well as supporting their young adult children.
At some point, it may seem like we need a refresher course in how to enjoy life.
Clear Your Mind
Do not feel compelled to answer every email, Facebook, text, Tweet or phone call when you really want to have dinner with your family or go for a quiet walk. Train yourself to stop expecting immediate responses from your co-workers and friends and they will realize that you shouldn’t always be expected to answer immediately as well. Once you arrive home from work, put your cell phone away. When dinner is over and you have had some time to relax and catch up with your family, then check for emails if necessary. Reduce the ‘incoming’ by taking yourself off mailing lists, Facebook notifications and Tweets that are not essential.
Stop Working in Bed
Never bring your work to the bedroom. Instead, focus on some relaxation techniques to have a restful sleep. Your body and mind need – and deserve — a break. And when the alarm goes off in the morning? Don’t look at your emails first thing, but take a few restful moments to do some deep breathing and think about your day.
Make it a point to have fun and don’t apologize for it! Take those vacation days when you need them. When the school calls because they need a coordinator for the carnival committee, take a pass if what you really want to do is walk around and enjoy the event with your family without the added stress. Learn to say ‘no’ every once in a while, and you just might have time to stop and smell the roses!